sexual violence

Yes, I have been raped. For me, the hardest part about it was not the trauma that resulted from being sexually violated. It was the ambiguity regarding the act especially that it was from someone I knew and cared about.  I constantly asked myself: did I have it coming? Did I deserve it? Did I lead him on? Should I have enjoyed it instead of feeling so much pain?

I would have never thought I would be sitting down and recounting a particularly painful event that happened in my life. I wouldn’t be where I am today without the support and love from folx around the world but in particular, people who have helped me emotionally during this past year, a small co-operative somewhere in the world, you know who you are. The immense support and love that I receive everyday warms my heart. Love and solidarity to you all.

Because a law that hurts women, hurts men.

Because no one, under any circumstances, should ever be subject to any kind of violence, be it domestic, sexual, or psychological.

Because a woman cannot, should not be scared of her husband.

Because a son needs to be able to understand that protecting women is his best hope for a good future.

Because a man should never feel reinforced and supported by the law when he is abusing his power and strength.

Because living in fear is not living.

Because insults, sticks, and force leave irreparable damage.